Connection rituals are simple things you do every day to connect with your child. I’m not talking about adding even more things to the never-ending to-do list! I suggest slowing down and being present in the things you’re already doing – then adding a little twist. Do something in that moment that puts a smile on both your faces.

In the mornings, we start our day with snuggles. It takes less than a minute but it helps us get out of bed in a better mood.

During drop off and pick up, I give my children a hug and a kiss – something most of you probably already do! The trick is in how you do it. Give that moment your full attention. Make sure your child feels your love.

We practice no-screens during mealtimes. We put down our phones, turn off the TV and talk to each other. Mealtimes is actually when my daughter talks about her day the most – without us even asking!

Having at least three connection rituals throughout the day help maintain a positive relationship. A child that feels good, does good. Adding connection rituals into your routine can lower the tension in your household.

Do things that both you and your child enjoy and that your child will notice if you don’t do it. This will help you do it every day because while you might forget, your child definitely won’t!

Try applying this to your partner as well! Are most of your interactions with your partner related to either the children or the chores? Renowned couples psychologist, John Gottman says that all couples should share a six-second kiss every day for a better relationship. If you can’t do even that, then at least do the same as you do with your child during pick up. Put down your phone. Give your partner your full attention. Say that you’re happy to see them again.

This week, evaluate your day. What are three simple interactions you can do to start connecting? If you already have connection rituals with your child, please share them in the comments!