Imagine your relationship with your partner were a tree. What would it be composed of?

I learned the concept of a relationship tree from Abi Austin of Eco Families. As soon I heard about it, I knew that I had to try it with my husband!

I had such a lovely experience that I knew I had to share this with all of you. After doing it, my husband and I felt so connected. It really helped me appreciate our relationship even more and feel grateful for everything we have accomplished together.

I hope the same thing happens to you!

Your Values are the Roots

Whether we are conscious of it or not, we are always living our values. They are the basis of everything we do and what ground us in the world, just like roots.

What are the values of your relationship?

What values do you live by?

What values represent your relationship?

Since my husband and I have spoken about our family values, I knew that respect and empathy would make it on our list.

What I loved was seeing other things, like affection and trust, come out.

Your Strengths are the Trunk

There is something sturdy about a tree trunk. It lets you know that it can handle anything you throw its way. Similarly the strengths in your relationship is what you lean on when the going gets tough.

What are the strengths of your relationship?

What characteristics help you get through times of difficulty?

What can you rely on when it comes to your relationship?

It came to no surprise that resourcefulness made it in our tree trunk! After all, one of our family motto’s is “We figure it out.”

What did surprise me was the last one, forgiveness. Considering that we are human and all make mistakes, I find it comforting to know that forgiveness is our strength. It is not easy to forgive to someone, but it does bring more trust and appreciation to the relationship.

Your Achievements are the Leaves/Fruits

“The fruits of your labor” are the outcome of your hard work. They come from the values that live and the strengths that you work on.

What are the fruits of your relationship?

What are achievements you have done that you are proud of?

What are results that you have worked hard for?

Of course our kids made it to the list – and our kids eating fruit is an achievement all by itself!

Another achievement that I was adamant on putting was communication. When we first met, I barely spoke Spanish and my husband barely spoke English. Communicating with each other was something we really had to learn how to do – and it wasn’t just about learning languages. Our communication, while far from perfect, is one of the proudest achievements I have because it is something that we work on consistently and I am so happy to see how it is working.

That’s the relationship tree! I hope you are inspired to do this activity with your partner. I am sure that it will lead to much more love for each other and appreciation of what you’ve made together.

If you’d like to learn more about family values and mottos, then send me a message. Defining your family values and long-term goals is the first thing I do with all of my clients. It helps them see the magic in their everyday lives and reminds them of how they’re already doing an amazing job. See how this would look in your life by scheduling a free consult!